When asked, ‘how is life?’ I generally reply, ‘busy but good.’ And, as if to prove that it’s true, I just discovered this wonderful conversation in my drafts from February.
So, thank you to the lovely Alex for answering my questions so promptly and apologies for not sharing it quite so promptly.
I met Alex when we worked together at a church in London and loved her immediately. She now lives in NYC and has recently started an exciting project called Iridescent (which you’ll have seen me share as I’ve written some articles for the community). She’s also expecting twins (which she doesn’t mention as this was written so long ago, but you can see gorgeous Alex and her lovely bump over on instagram – @mrsalexandrabrown!)
I’ll leave her to explain what life looks like for her but what I will tell you is that she is brilliant and inspiring, and shares my passion for honest and vulnerable conversation. I feel privileged to know her.
Who are you?
I am an Aussie girl living in NYC. I am passionate and loyal. I run a digital marketing agency start up in the city and co-founded Iridescent, an online community for women, by women. I have been married for 11 years to my high school sweetheart.
What does your week look like/what do you do?
Mostly work!!! Running two start-up businesses certainly puts the hustle back into life. But work is interesting and fun. I get to travel a lot and in my down time I love exploring New York and hanging with friends.
What thing do you find hardest about faith?
Understanding that it is HIS timing and not mine. I have seen glimpses of the promises he has and the fruitfulness of faith, but I would really love to know the timeframe for all these things happening!!!!
How do you connect with God in the midst of a busy day?
Well, sometimes I just don’t! But I do love to take a moment whether sitting on the bus on the way to work or getting a glimpse of the city skyline and just take a breath and pray – giving thanks and praise that I get to live this wonderful life.
What are you most passionate about?
Women finding and understanding their true value!!!
What’s your biggest fear?
Letting people down – that if I don’t live up to the expectations and responsibilities in the roles I have, that the impact on those around me will be too great!
What do you love to talk about most?
Anything that is real! The truth behind the experience, or story. Not filtering experiences but sharing the rawness of them. Both the amazing aspects and the challenges.
What is one of the most useful things you’ve learned in adulthood that you wish you knew before?
That it is ok to not always be ok, and people will still love you. Also, no one ACTUALLY knows what they are doing. We’re all making it up as we go along!!!!
What makes you feel the most nervous?
Waiting!!! Unknown answers and the desire to know what’s ahead. I am getting much better at this.
For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
I get to live in this incredible city that I absolutely love and have the most amazing people around. The community that came together for us in NYC is beyond what I could have ever imagined and I thankful every day I get to do life with them, in a place that feels like home.
Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
My husband and I would love to open a coffee shop that has a community approach. Timing is why we haven’t yet and know that God will call us into it when the timing is right. Also, buy a house in Vermont (to have a base to go skiing more often!!)
What is the greatest accomplishment of your life so far?
Hmm…. marriage! Such a rewarding, amazing, incredible thing, but also can be hard work at times. Having a healthy marriage of 11 years is definitely something I am proud of. Also, running two start-ups.
What do you value most in a friendship?
Loyalty and support. Just someone who you know will be there for you and will move heaven and earth to get there.
What is your most treasured memory?
So many!!! Too many to list out.
What is your hardest / saddest memory?
I battled depression and anxiety for a long while in my 20’s. It makes me sad to think of this and know that many others still struggle with that darkness.
When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
Have a read! “My Fear of Vulnerability” (https://iridescentwomen.com/2019/01/17/my-fear-of-vulnerability/) haha! Rather public (added by the fact I was actually on a work trip!!!) I’ve probably cried plenty since then but that was the most memorable.
What is something that is guaranteed to make you cry?
Like a random tearjerker ad on TV.
What are the most amazing things you’ve achieved in the last year?
Started Iridescent including launching site, starting a podcast, opening an online store!
What one thing do you wish people would talk about more?
Singleness and marriage. Especially in the church. There is so much emphasis on single women finding a husband and the idea that being married is the answer to singleness. Both have their difficulties and challenges but both can also bring so much fulfillment to your life. Being single should not been seen as something that needs to be fixed, but something to rejoice, celebrate, and empower women in!!!